Monday, August 25, 2008

Helping Someone Through Depression

I'm part of a wonderful ministry called "Celebrate Recovery," which is for anyone who wants to deal with a hurt, habit, or hang-up. Even those of us who are leaders are recovering from something. In fact, I've been surprised at how much I'm personally getting out of the group.
My struggle is depression. The bad cycles for me tend to run every three years. I've come along way, but I still consider myself in the recovery process.
For a depressed person in the midst of a depression spell, it can be hard to articulate to those around you what it is that you need. So thinking with a clearer mind, I've come up with a list that I think can help loved ones and care takers help someone who is going through a depressed spell:

1. Keep the house as quiet as possible--Loud music, tv shows, or voices cause agitation in the depressed person and want to make the person withdraw even more.

2. Allow the depressed person some extra sleep and rest, but don't let the person stay in bed constantly.

3. Give the depressed person a specific task to do and give them only one thing at a time.--Make a list or schedule of things the person needs to do, but do not give them the whole schedule, just one task at a time, and if the task is still overwhelming, help them with the task.
The depressed person needs to do something, especially something that can be considered helpful or necessary.

4. Keep as much of a routine as possible. The depressed person will function better there is predictability. Surprises are not good for someone who is depressed.

5. Give the gift of your time. Be ready to listen, but even if the person does not want to talk, just sitting and being with the person lets the person know that they really are not alone.

6. Use words of encouragement, not criticism. Do NOT tell the depressed person to "get over it." This is not helpful and can be harmful.

7. As soon as possible, the depressed person needs to do something for someone else. Anything that can get the person serving and less self-focused is good. Depression and self-centeredness often go together, although which is the cause and which is the effect isn't always so clear. The person needs help becoming outwardly focused.

If you are someone who struggles with depression or have a loved one who struggles with depression and have other tips to add, leave your comments below.

3 Comments:

Blogger Pastor Parato said...

I just read this really good article. This is a book review. Sounds interesting.

http://www.esa-online.org/Article.asp?RecordKey=5A4ADE87-DF4D-4CE0-9EB5-3125B65A27BD

August 27, 2008 at 6:59 AM

 
Blogger Stan and Faith said...

Lavera, We're thinking of starting CR when we come back from Home Assignment in a year--but while we are IN the US, we're looking at attending CR at a local church.
Thanks for the information!
Faith

April 29, 2009 at 4:47 AM

 
Blogger Pastor Parato said...

Our first group fizzled when we got to the second quarter. Our new group is just beginning the second quarter, but they seem really committed. We've had 2 baptisms out of this group too! Hopefully we're training our next leaders. I really like CR. I know it could be helpful to so many more people. The first step is getting through the door!

April 30, 2009 at 5:58 AM

 

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