Sunday, December 18, 2022

Where's the Love?; Matthew 1:1-17, II Samuel 12:24-25, I Kings 1:5-31, I Kings 2:13-25

 

It was such a scandalous event, such a mar on the life of King David, such an embarrassment in the history of Israel, that Matthew doesn’t even list her by name.  She is called “of Uriah”, and rightly so, for that was her legitimate marriage.  Unlike Tamar, Rahab, and Ruth, Bathsheba is not remembered for her faith or for her character.  She is remembered for two things--the one whose husband was murdered., and the queen mother to King Solomon.  It was not Bathsheba’s fault that she ended up in this predicament, except I suppose, that she could have refused and fought King David possibly ended up dead like her husband.  Would a martyr’s death have been better?  When one thinks of David and Bathsheba, one has to wonder, “Where’s the love in this story?”  I don’t see much love.  There’s lust, murder, adultery, scandal, and pride, but not much love. 

            We know that David was so repentant over his sins with and against Bathsheba that he wrote no less that three psalms about it.  He was repentant because he realized what he had done when Nathan confronted him.  That story of Nathan’s confrontation can be found in the first part of II Samuel 12, prior to today’s reading.  A pastor friend of mine always wanted to have some T-shirts printed that said, “You’re the man!” on one side and the reference II Samuel 12:7 on the back.  “You’re the man!” is no complement!

            What do we know about Bathsheba, other than she was really hot!  We know her hometown was Gilon in southern Judea.  Gilon means “exile,” and was a city where many of the Gentile remnants from the people who originally inhabited the promised land lived.  She married Uriah, a Hittite, a Gentile.  Uriah was a believer in Yahweh, very devoted to his wife and to King David.  Bathsheba probably was not Hittite but may have been part Gentile.  Her father was Eliam, also very loyal to King David.  Her grandfather was Ahithophel, loyal and wise counselor to King David for quite a while, but joined in the first revolt against King David, that of Absolom.  Ahithophel committed suicide when Absolom refused to take his advice, and Ahithophel could see that Absolom’s revolution was doomed.  One wonders if Ahithophel supported Absolom in part because of what had happened to his granddaughter and her husband. 

What else do we know about Bathsheba?  Her name means “daughter of an oath, or daughter of wealth.”  We also know that she actually had 4 sons in addition to the one that died, and that despite today’s reading, Solomon was the youngest of these sons, not the next one.  In genealogies, children are always listed in birth order, and in II Sam. 5:14 and I Chron. 3:5, Solomon is listed last.  The brother next oldest to Solomon is Nathan, the son of David listed in Luke’s genealogy.  Yet it is Solomon that is the chosen king, the son who is loved by God, which is what Nathan the prophet called him—Jedediah, Beloved of God.  Solomon in Hebrew is Schlomo, from the word Shalom, peace.  It is Solomon, not the other sons who is called the child of Bathsheba’s consolation. 

            We read the story of Solomon’s rise to kingship in our second Old Testament reading this morning.  This doesn’t seem like much of a redemption of the scandal of David and Bathsheba.  Once again we see conniving, rebellion, manipulation, unfaithfulness, and not much love.  Adonijah is much like his older brother Absolom.  He is handsome and loved by people.  Like Absolom, he was neglected and spoiled by his father by turns.  David certainly does not win any father-of-the-year awards.  He was a terrible father.  King Saul was actually a much better father than David ever was, even to Michal and Jonathan, who both tricked him.  Saul loved them both and we see reconciliation between Saul and Jonathan before their demise.  Too many parents today though are following David’s style of parenting.  They don’t spend much time with them and then let them do whatever they want and have whatever they want.  David is even reluctant to step in when Adonijah declares himself king until Nathan and Bathsheba remind him that he has made a promise in regard to Solomon.

            There is a division between David’s loyal supporters.  Most go with Adonijah, including Joab, who killed Absolom and Abithar, one of the priests.  Adonijah even invites all of his half-siblings to his coronation feast, even Solomon’s brothers, all except Solomon, probably because he knew of his father’s promise.

            There was no logical reason Solomon should have been king.  He wasn’t next in line.  Adonijah was the 4th son of David, next in line since Amnon, Absolom, and the one in between, Daniel or Kileab, son of Abigail, must have also been dead for some reason.  Solomon wasn’t even the first son born in Jerusalem, as we learn that he had older brothers.  But Solomon was the one whom God chose and David had promised to Bathsheba.  Having one of Bathsheba’s sons be King would protect her and also promote her to a position of power.  Wives of kings were not usually called queens.  But the mother of a king was called a queen and given some power.  This would be redemption for her.  Otherwise, since the marriage was never really legitimate, she did face the possibility of being killed.  The other families of David would be fine as long as no one challenged for the throne. 

            Adonijah’s fair-weather friends abandon him when David finally steps in and has Solomon crowned king.  They don’t, however, run to Solomon, but instead pledge loyalty to King David.  Adonijah clings to the altar for his life, seeking refuge.  His refuge is granted by the new king at first, until Adonijah asks for Abishag to be his wife.  This is considered an act of treason, whether Adonijah meant it or not.  Why did Bathsheba tell Solomon?  She most likely knew this would end not only in Adonijah’s death but also Joab’s, the man who gave the order to have the troops leave her husband, Uriah, hanging out there by himself in battle so that he would be killed.  Is Bathsheba getting her revenge?  Is she protecting her son?  What are her motives?  And poor Abishag, what happens to her?  This poor girl who was taken from her home to take care of an old, dying man, is she locked away forever with the rest of David’s concubines?  Solomon isn’t legally allowed to have her either.  Is she set free?  Again, there doesn’t seem to be much love in this story.  It’s all violence and people using one another for their own profit, not caring who they hurt to get the power they want.  And sadly, it isn’t too different from the way people act today.

            So where is the love in this story?  Isn’t the fourth Sunday of Advent supposed to be about love?  I suppose you could say that David did love Bathsheba.  After all, she had multiple children by him.  David loved Solomon, because he made Solomon king.  Bathsheba loved Solomon; he was the son of her consolation.  But the real love in this story is the love of God.  God loved Solomon from the time Solomon was born.  It had nothing to do with Solomon.  Solomon didn’t earn it or deserve any more than any other child of David.  We see from Solomon’s later life that he did a lot that was very unloving and not worthy of being loved.  But God loved Solomon and chose him.  God has this same love for us.  We don’t deserve God’s love any more than any one else, but God chose us before the foundation of the world.  God loves us despite what we do.  God loves us before we are ever aware of it and able to express our love in return.  God loves us not for anything in us, but simply because.  Because God is love.

            Secondly, God loved David.  Despite David’s gross sins, despite being a murderer, despite breaking multiple commandments.  Even God’s discipline of David was evidence of God’s love for David.  God forgave David for everything.  If God can forgive David for all that, surely God can forgive anyone, and indeed God can!  The Lord forgives the darkest, most wicked, and depraved sins.  The same love that forgave David for lust, adultery, murder, greed, and arrogance forgives our sordidness.  God forgives us for all of our sins.  No matter how serious we think they are, no matter what we’ve done, God can and does forgive us in Christ Jesus, if we will receive that forgiveness.  Even though we may have to endure the Lord’s chastening and face the consequences of sins, it doesn’t mean that God doesn’t love us and forgive us.  In fact, the New Testament tells us that God disciplines those God loves, like a loving Father.  God even blesses us despite our continual failings, just as God continued to bless David.

            This same love of God took away Bathsheba’s shame and gave her a place of honor as the Queen Mother of Solomon.  The one who had everything taken away from her is protected and honored, just like Tamar and Rahab were loved and honored by God.  This same love of God takes away our shame and replaces it with honor.  We are honored as children of the King, joint heirs with Jesus Christ.  We are offered protection in God our Refuge and Strength, out Mighty Fortress, and Strong Tower, our Hiding Place, our Shelter in the Time of Storm.

            And finally in this story we see God’s love in the gift of a peace child to David and Bathsheba.  This child comforted both of them, enabled them to be at peace with each other, and most of all showed that God was at peace with them.  This same love blessed the world with a peace child when God Himself took on human flesh and came into the world as a baby boy.  The peace child Jesus was love with skin on, showing us who God is.  The child grew up and died on a cross so that we could be at peace with God, so we could be reconciled to God.  And in being reconciled to God we are able to be reconciled to one another.  The risen man ascended so that a new family could be formed, the Church, a place of love and reconciliation and from which the message of the love of God is taken to the world and demonstrated for the world.  The love in God’s story is in Christ Jesus.  He is where love is!  May you know that God is love and be found by Love.

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